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Quote from “12 Ways You’re Holding Yourself Back From Your Best Life” By BRIANNA WIEST

When you focus too much on the idea of how things should be, you start losing your concept of how they are. Not everything will be picturesque, and that’s not just a fact of life you have to begrudgingly accept, it’s a reality that often you’ll be grateful for — as happiness is how you create the pieces of a life that feels good to you, not how closely you adhere to ideas and images of life that other people desire.


15 thoughts on “Quote from “12 Ways You’re Holding Yourself Back From Your Best Life” By BRIANNA WIEST

  1. From the “About Me” section of the homepage of my website (
    During my life—as in all lives—there have been many forks in roads that presented opportunities to take the road less traveled by, but in almost every instance, I took the one most traveled, and while the reason has certainly been floating around in my head, it was not until I ran across words written by Donald Winnicott, who in 1958 published a paper entitled, “The capacity to be alone:”

    (There are persons who) learned as children to be over-compliant; that is, to live in ways which were expected of them, or which pleased others, or which were designed not to offend others…(the self-perception of such folks as adults) is based upon compliance with the wishes of others, rather than being based upon the individual’s own true feelings and instinctive needs. Such an individual ultimately comes to feel that life is pointless and futile because he is merely adapting to the world rather than experiencing it as a place in which his subjective needs can find fulfillment.

    In other words, such folks—for whom I could have been a poster child—tend to take the road most traveled because doing so is consistent with compliance to the wishes and perceived wishes of others.

    Solitude by Anthony Storr is a wonderful resource for those who suspect their lives have not been based upon one’s own true feelings and needs. Storr includes a quote from Michel de Montaigne:

    We must reserve a little back-shop, all our own, entirely free, wherein we establish our true liberty and principal retreat and solitude.

    For me, that little back-shop has been my writing, and I have a feeling this would resonate with many other writers. Writing provides us with the opportunity to touch our “own true feelings and instinctive needs.”

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